This love language focuses on doing things to try to make someone else happy, even if it means you have to sacrifice something. Holding hands, kissing, sex, and anything where you can touch is how you show affection and prefer to receive it. People who have physical touch as their love language crave physical affection and dole it out easily. When they can do this, they feel the most loved. They prefer to spend a lot of time with their partner, whether it's just hanging out or doing a special date together. People with this love language value time spent together. The phrase 'I love you' may carry a deeper meaning for you than for people who have other love languages. Meaning, you feel most loved (and express your love for others) through telling others how you feel about them. Words of affirmation focuses on verbal expressions of love. What do the five main love languages mean?Ĭhapman's book spells out the differences and unique qualities of each love language. You can stay in the loop about her latest programs, gatherings, and other projects through her newsletter: kellygonsalves.Play icon The triangle icon that indicates to play

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